I think he means "compare to remote, but don't copy the files over". In that case, use the --only-write-batch option of man rsync (Linux), in addition to any other options. It will create 2 files, a shell script (really only 1 line) to apply the differences, and one larger containing the changed/missing files in some sort of stream.
Is there an easy way to get this to execute correctly? My source system doesn't have direct access to the remote system. I must originate the connection from the remote system to the source.